We have three children and by number 3 I had figured something out: You do not need 98% of the stuff the parenting industry makes you buy. Baby alarms - nope (babies don’t do quiet when they need something - they evolved to make sure you damm well know about it), all the feeding clutter - nope by number 3 we sterilized for a couple of months until we became aware that her bottle might be clean but the toys & hand that spent most of the time in her mouth certainly are not sterile, etc. etc.

Again we started off buying loads of toys for our first child but soon saw that only a fraction of them were played with - now we have ruthless purges periodically and limit purchasing as well. The key tip here is make sure you do the purges when the children are not around - because they will suddenly “remember” how some toy they have barely touched is their “favourite” (for all of 3 seconds)

And all the junk you accumulated and now realize you no longer need? - that’s what friends on their first time pregnancies are for…..

Of course children & babies bring mess and clutter and there are toys that they do play with - but it is much easier when you see that stuff is being used and is enjoyed/useful etc.