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Time management for parents

The excellent news that Merlin is joining the parent flock prompted me to write this post. I became a parent about a year ago and I've been battling the "loss" of about 8-16 hours of every day to parenting and the unpredictability element that babies bring to your schedule. I'm interested in hearing what other parents have done in order to keep a grip on their schedule and their lives.

For me, the most extreme effect was that I decided to change jobs in order to do something I really like, despite having to take a 50% pay cut. I just can't afford to waste hours doing things that doesn't make me happy. I've also taken a few hints from Merlin and now carry a small note pad (sort of a hipster PDA) in my pocket at all times for capture purposes. I think my previous attempts at GTD has failed just because I havn't needed it enough. Now, I can't survive without it.

As for handling the unpredictability element of children, my wife and I have a system where we try to never replan the current day schedule but instead handle exceptions as far into the future as possible. This keeps our schedules reasonably stable.

What are your experiences?

paulmayson's picture

9 months into it, and here's all I can offer...

Couple things that are working for me/us:

  • Any mechanical stuff like scheduling, or general tasks are all handled via email even though my wife and i are about 20 feet from the other at any given time. It just stops the looping of repeating - confirming - checking - etc. Keep the mechanical mechanical.

  • Work weird hours... Since my commute is about 17 seconds, I made it a habit to get up early and get in the office. Before my wife, my daughter, or two dogs start to stir, I can plow through the low hanging stuff and usually take a nice chunk out of a project. I can often get 2-3 hours of total solitude. That way if everything goes in the toilet that day - I'm ahead. Remember what Henry Rollins taught us - "sleep is for lightweights."

What I still find tough is changing states ("shifting gears"). Going from changing a diaper or negotiating a nap and then back to "work".

 
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