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Time management for parents

The excellent news that Merlin is joining the parent flock prompted me to write this post. I became a parent about a year ago and I've been battling the "loss" of about 8-16 hours of every day to parenting and the unpredictability element that babies bring to your schedule. I'm interested in hearing what other parents have done in order to keep a grip on their schedule and their lives.

For me, the most extreme effect was that I decided to change jobs in order to do something I really like, despite having to take a 50% pay cut. I just can't afford to waste hours doing things that doesn't make me happy. I've also taken a few hints from Merlin and now carry a small note pad (sort of a hipster PDA) in my pocket at all times for capture purposes. I think my previous attempts at GTD has failed just because I havn't needed it enough. Now, I can't survive without it.

As for handling the unpredictability element of children, my wife and I have a system where we try to never replan the current day schedule but instead handle exceptions as far into the future as possible. This keeps our schedules reasonably stable.

What are your experiences?

Craig's picture

Re: Time management for parents

Instead of assuming that the baby's lack of structure is going to blow up your ability to be productive, why not share your hard-won organizational skills with the baby? Don't you think the baby WANTS to have the structure of daily times dedicated to crying, cooing, pooping, etc.? The best gift you can give your child as a parent is a trusted system for putting his or her life in order. So I'd advise you to:

  • Get a onesie with a good pocket, and with a little work with a papercutter you can turn 3x5 cards into baby-sized 2.5x3 lists for projects and contexts (@playpen, @crib, @agenda-Grandma, etc.).

  • Help your baby articulate his or her goals. He's reaching for Mr. Fuzzybear? What are the standards and purposes of that desire? What does a successful outcome look like?
  • For the more committed babies: is there a reason it has to be YOU crying when you're gassy? Could there be someone (perhaps in another, cheaper country) who could be doing that crying FOR you?

Hope that helps.

 
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