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Whining, Blue Smoke & the Mechanics of Getting Unstuck

I’ve been working on a bunch of (non-43 Folders-related) stuff lately, but I started feeling that hankering to come back and write something new here. To get the engine started, I went through some old posts and turned up a few (oddly self-inspiring) ideas that I want to re-share. The topic? “Getting unstuck.”

  • Hack your way out of writer’s block - “Literally. Put five completley random words on a piece of paper. Write five more words. Try a sentence. Could be about anything. A block ends when you start making words on a page.”
  • Solve problems by writing a note to yourself - “Seriously, open up your email program, type in your own email address, then choose a brilliant subject line that perfectly encapsulates your particular problem.”
  • Do a fast “mind-sweep” - “And as long as you let that stuff accumulate as chunky deposits on the edges of your perception, it’s very unlikely it’ll get done since — well — they won’t get done until they’re been captured and properly started, right?”
  • Cringe-Busting your TODO list - “Per cringe item, think honestly about why you’re freaked out about it. Seriously. What’s the hang-up? (Fear of failure? Dreading bad news? Angry you’re already way overdue?)”
  • Patching your personal suck - “Every patch that fails teaches you a little something that might come in handy some day. Mistakes, as they say, can be a buddhist gift.”

I guess all I’d add — since it’s on my mind today — is that I’m learning how much it pays to listen whenever you hear yourself mentally whining.

First off, even when it’s yourself, nobody likes a whiner. So it’s worthwhile to be mindful about the extent to which your internal monologue is becoming personally insufferable. As with B.O. and a lack of flossing, the chances are good that others have already noticed things about you before you have, so — you know — congratulations on making it to the party.

But, second, and perhaps more importantly, that whining should be telling you something. Whining is the white blue smoke in your tailpipe that lets you know you’re burning mental oil. It means you’re unconsciously devoting cycles to something that you can’t, won’t, or shouldn’t be spending time thinking about. Otherwise, why would it be bothering you, right? You’d be either extricated or done with it.

Once you pinpoint where that whine’s coming from, that’s the perfect opportunity to decide what the hell the hang-up is. Because if it’s worth whining and fussing about, it’s worth deciding what obstacle (obstruction?) in either the Real World or your own mind is keeping something from happening.

And once that obstacle is identified and out there, ample methods exist for helping you execute in a way that’s sane and sensible. But you can’t complete a task you don’t understand, so grant yourself the personal luxury of unpacking the problem behind the problem.

Put automotively? Obsessively adding a new quart of oil every day not only doesn’t fix your smoke problem: it feeds it. Instead, just use the smoke as a warning that it’s nigh time to trace the cracks in your engine.

As for me? Yeah. Now I’m feeling unstuck and a little less whiny. So, thanks. Onward.


Edit 2008-04-12 11:07:28 - Reader wemerson was kind enough to correct me on my metaphor in this post. Turns out that my use of “white smoke” was inaccurate; the smoke would be blue. Many thanks — and I made the correction. Learn more about smoke…


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Andre Kibbe's picture

Re: Whining, White Smoke & the Mechanics of Getting Unstuck

Whining almost always shows an implicit understanding of the causal connection between the symptoms the whiner is suffering from, and their underlying cause. Put differently, whining is half-assed diagnosis, unfinished thinking.

I totally agree with this post. Stop thinking around an issue and start thinking through it. What exactly is the open loop that keeps the problem on your mind (i.e. what exactly is the problem)? What needs to be done to bring it to closure?

ajsheets's picture

The advert

I just have to say that the advertisement accompanying this post - brake pads - is quintessential.

Merlin Mann's picture

Hm. That’s

Hm. That’s coincidental/contextual. But I do support brake pads and their important work.

“Buy Brake Pads.” —Merlin

;-)

wemerson's picture

Whining and white smoke

Sorry, Merlin, but white smoke doesn’t mean you’re burning oil. It means you have water in the fuel, a cracked block, or moisture in the exhaust system. Blue smoke means you’re burning oil and your engine has a problem you shouldn’t ignore. A minor point but an important distinction. Otherwise a great article.

“Off in a cloud of blue smoke!”

tournevis's picture

Re: Whining and white smoke

What he said before I could. Both bits.

outtacontext's picture

Whining

Merlin, you are invited to my house to present this to my ten year old. When it comes to whining, she has refined this to a new art form. (Bring your steampunk stuff when you come, that might help soften your message). ;-)

Darrel Girardier's picture

Whining with Friends

If there is one advantage to working in a large office is that when you whine about project or task, you are more than likely to run into someone who reminds you to suck it up.

as8's picture

Flossing

Agree with the whining, however, caring about others’ lack of flossing is surely a sign of pettiness.

indietim's picture

Rules for whining

Learned from project retrospectives in the agile software development tradition: you don’t get to whine unless you have a solution to go along with it. That rule forces people to think through the whine to the point where it can be useful.

jparrie's picture

White smoke, another possibility

Another possible cause of white smoke out the exhaust is a ruptured diaphram in the vacumm modulator of an automatic transmission vehicle. This white smoke will be a drier loftier white smoke as opposed to a heavier steamy white smoke caused by coolant. It is the result of automatic transmission fluid being sucked into the intake manifold by engine vacumm and burning in the combustion chamber(s). It will be most obvious under high vacumm conditions ie coasting with the throttle plate(s)closed.

I’m dating myself by providing this information as most late model vehicles transmissions are electronically controled and vacumm modulators are not seen much on todays cars.

Mashedspud's picture

Types of whiners

There are three types of whiners.

English who are beyond hope Habitual whiners who are also beyond hope People who are unhappy and have hope

Normal people who have an issue or a problem in their life that is making them unhappy tend to whine as means of expressing their feelings. The solution for this people is to focus the issue at hand and solve it of accept it.

Mashedspud Green lasers rulz

 
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