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Bob Parsons' hardass time management

"Not so polite" time saving tips — that work.

Bob Parsons may not win any awards for congeniality, but I like the way he lays down the law on managing your time -- with a focus on not being a victim of your own phone. This is tough, in-your-face talk, but frankly I think it's time we get tougher with the people who demand our time.

In my own opinion, you'll never get out from under until you learn to seize back control of your phone and your email inbox; that's the the two places where the world will never stop hollering for your attention; it's up to you to say "no," and hit delete. After all, if you don't respect how you parcel out your time and attention, why should you expect anyone else to?

A few of Bob's observations:

If a stranger calls me they better get right to the point.
I insist that if someone is calling me and I don’t know them, that they immediately get to the point with what they want. In fact, if I have someone on the line and they start rambling and simply talking about who they are, I will chime in that they have 30 seconds to get to the point. If they don’t immediately get to the point, I hang up. Once they get to the point, if it’s something I’m not interested in, I will simply say, “I’m not interested,” and immediately hang up. If they are foolish enough to immediately call me back –I have found that often some knucklehead feels this tactic might work – I say once again, “I told you I’m not interested” and hang up again. Usually, they never call back...

Customer calls are always important to me.
If the caller is a customer, I always consider the call important and will usually listen to whatever the problem happens to be. I will ask for their name and phone number, and how long they will be at that number. Then I will have one of my customer service people get in touch with them and resolve the issue. Once again, I keep these calls very short and to the point...

I very rarely return any voice message.
If someone leaves their name and number with a message without detailing what they want, it’s been my practice to very rarely return the call. For me to return any call, the message has to be understandable, it has to be of immediate interest to me and it has to be something that I want. If a message left on your phone doesn’t meet these criteria, I think it's nuts to return the call.

Remember: when you call someone, you're demanding instant access to their undivided attention, no matter what they might be doing. If they loan that attention to you, treat it like the golden resource that it is.

[ Thanks, Sean Conlan ]

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Interesting thoughts. I myself...

Interesting thoughts. I myself have operated on both sides of this line. I used to allow myself to be held hostage by telemarketers because I was brought up to be "nice". The end result was nearly always that I'd patiently listen to their nonsense, then politely decline, only to have THEM hang up on ME before I even finished my sentence. When I finally woke up to the fact that being nice made no sense at all, I used to have a little fun with them. For a while my standard answer was an earnest "Oh, I'm sorry ... we don't take calls from telemarketers!" Often their response was a startled, "Oh, oh! I'm sorry ... um.. " as they stammered confusedly. But now I just politely get to the point ... "Not interested, but thanks for calling." Click. Occasionally I remember to ask them to remove me from their list, but I honestly haven't had any luck with that .. they almost always call back anyway.

Anyway, while I agree with the premise of not allowing others to dominate your time without your permission, I do find the notion of saying something like "You have 30 seconds to get to the point" to be a blustery, unnecessarily rude method of handling the matter, and typical of many self-important men I know. After all, is the point be to get off the phone quickly or just to be offensive? The point made here seems more to be "I'm far too important for the likes of you, prove to me why I should listen to you."

One last thing ... you never know who might be calling. For a while, I was in a rude phase with unknown callers. During that time, I managed to be quite rude to people who didn't deserve it ... a headhunter calling for my husband, a client, etc. No, not everyone practices good phone manners (identifying themselves immediately, saying why they are calling), but it doesn't mean that I need to practice poor phone manners as well. It is possible to take charge of your time without being a complete jerk.

 
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