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Time management for parents

The excellent news that Merlin is joining the parent flock prompted me to write this post. I became a parent about a year ago and I've been battling the "loss" of about 8-16 hours of every day to parenting and the unpredictability element that babies bring to your schedule. I'm interested in hearing what other parents have done in order to keep a grip on their schedule and their lives.

For me, the most extreme effect was that I decided to change jobs in order to do something I really like, despite having to take a 50% pay cut. I just can't afford to waste hours doing things that doesn't make me happy. I've also taken a few hints from Merlin and now carry a small note pad (sort of a hipster PDA) in my pocket at all times for capture purposes. I think my previous attempts at GTD has failed just because I havn't needed it enough. Now, I can't survive without it.

As for handling the unpredictability element of children, my wife and I have a system where we try to never replan the current day schedule but instead handle exceptions as far into the future as possible. This keeps our schedules reasonably stable.

What are your experiences?

seans's picture

Change the diapers and play music . . . . .

Congrats all the way around! I'm two months into the journey and boy is it the best trip ever. "Advice" is kind of hard to give in these situations I think because everyone's experience is so different. Some thoughts though:

--Change the diapers. Especially at night while your wife gets ready to feed the baby. It gives me (you) time with my son and helps us feel like a team at this new endeavor.

--If you play a musical instrument of any kind, play to your child. I keep my guitar near the changing table and play after changing him. It's a nice thing and now, at two months, he is aware of the fact that this box that I put on makes a different kind of sound.

--As far as being productive, I've had so many things just go on the back burner and that's ok. I try not to worry about it too much and I try to get to things when I can. Time with my child is precious and fantastic.

Mostly just enjoy, enjoy, enjoy!

 
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