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How do you share information with your spouse?

Hey all,

I've recently been racking my brain on how exactly to share information (the digital kind) with my wife. We've been together for 7 years, but only started living with each other (as opposed to different states and countries like before) after we got married in May.

What kind of info? Finances, bills, to-dos, and other stuff like maybe a health or vehicle log. I do a lot of banking online (and she didn't) but most of that stuff is based around one user account. I've thought about setting up a wiki, and looked in to VoodooPad as well. We have 2 Macbooks and an Airport Extreme, which I am purchasing an external hard drive for, to make a shared drive, which I thought about putting all of these docs on. Short of buying OS X Server though, I'm pretty lost.

I have to imagine that this is a common problem with couples and families, so perhaps there are other suggestions out there? I've thought about Backpack, but think I might need something more secure.

Thanks, Matt

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I know John Gruber and his wife share shopping list type info with Tada Lists because it has an iPhone interface. This may be a little less than you're after.

mwr's recommendations are good. I would add that the path of least resistance to offsite access to stuff is the Back to my Mac feature from Apple's .Mac service. Also, I have had good luck using DynDNS without port forwarding to access my Airport Disk over the WAN.

Another stupid simple way to do this would be to use a wiki like PBWiki or even a simple, private blog using Wordpress or something to leave a "what's new" paper trail for each other. With Wordpress, you could each be authors, hide posts for people not logged in, and then subscribe to each other's posts as an RSS feed that could then be munged however you need to whether it be to pipe it into email or to SMS.

The financial stuff might not be as easy. For me, my wife and I are joint account holders for our bank accounts with ING and we each get our own login info. Check with your bank to see if they have a provision for adding another user to an account.

Bills I would do with a calendar, probably with iCal or Google Calendar.* OS X Server now has CalDav built in, but you could use BusySync to have read-write access to the same calendar and keep it in sync.

I realize this post is sort of all over, but I hope I've given you some stuff to play around with and find a solution. I'd be interested to know where you land.

*Come to think of it, Google might be a good place to store some of the not-as-sensitive info. Google docs for lists (or even Backpack maybe?) and calendar for scheduling things.

 
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